also shout out to murph for giving brennan an excuse to say “yeah yeah okay the DC is lowered by one, get back in there.” i typically really enjoy the dedication to mechanics in dimension 20 (it’s the reason i’ve said many times that combat in that show makes me feel like a dad watching sports) but there are definitely times when it butts up against the intense awareness that they Are Making A Show (which is another thing i deeply respect about d20) and causes friction
Oxenfree II is kicking my ass. What do you mean I have to choose who to sacrifice between a man I’ve become friend with and who’s trying to accomplish something with his life, a sixteen year old who’s desparatly trying to see her parents again and badly dealing with the trauma of their death, or myself and condemn the kid I am pregnant with with the knowledge that it wouldn’t work out between us and at some point we drift away. That is terrible, I don’t want to choose. I can’t choose someone else to bear this, but I can’t condemn my son just because we won’t be a happy go lucky family, he’s still my son…
I’ve seen a few comments now like “but without chatGPT I don’t know what to make for dinner” or “but character.ai is vital to my mental health” and those are not arguments for genAI. They’re signs that you need to sort yourself out.
An adult human being should be able to decide what to have for dinner. Yes, some days it’s rough and you don’t wanna, but the point is, you can do it. And if you can’t, you can learn. Hell, make post-it notes with dinner options, stick them on a dart board, and on days when you really can’t decide, throw a dart.
You’d really rather put these decisions in the hands of an AI? As in, a company? And you don’t see the issues with that? You don’t see how easy that makes it for companies to manipulate you, influence your choices and your spending and your entire life?
And if your mental health relies on talking to a robot about your issues “because it listens and cares” - no, it doesn’t. It can’t listen. It can’t care. It’s lying to you. It’s parroting phrases said by other people in similar contexts. It’s an elaborate predictive text machine.
And again, you’re just giving all of this information about yourself to a company. A company that wants to make money and likely has no compunctions about selling your data. You’re trusting a software run by a company. And you don’t think that’ll be used to manipulate you? I’ve got a bridge to sell you.
What you need is actual human connection with other humans. And if you don’t know how to connect with other humans then it’s time to learn. Start by caring about other people. Take a genuine interest in them. Listen to them. That’s how you connect. Not by treating others as entities to dump all your issues on or monologue at about your boring life. Sure, character.ai will put up with that and humour you, but there’s literally nothing genuine about it and you will never ever learn to make actual friends.
Relying on genAI for any of this means you’ll never learn, in fact you’ll get worse, and if genAI ever goes away or you find yourself without access to a computer/phone/internet or the people running chatGPT or character.ai take down the website or put it behind a paywall, you’ll be completely adrift. You are handing control of your life over to a piece of software run by a business. Instead of developing skills and independence you’re just handing control over to someone else, someone who by the way does not care about you, someone who’s only here to make money.
“But some people need–” to stop infantilising themselves, to start taking responsibility and control of their own life, to realise that they have agency and power, to learn that agency and control are not the same as blame and guilt and that someone trying to help them reclaim control is not trying to blame them for their situation.
People, yes even people with your exact diagnosis or background or medical history, were living and making decisions and dealing with their issues and going to therapy and learning and coping for millennia prior to 2022. As in, before genAI was even an option. You can do it. Trust me.
